
HOW TO SURVIVE YOUR MOTHER
by Jonathan Maitland
directed by Oliver Dawe
Kings Head Theatre, London – until 24 November 2024
https://kingsheadtheatre.com/whats-on/how-to-survive-your-mother
From All About Eve and Mommie Dearest on screen to The Little Foxes and the heroines of Noël Coward and Tennessee Williams on stage, and Death Becomes Her and Sunset Boulevard on both, women behaving appallingly is a longstanding stalwart of popular entertainment. It’s a bit different when the woman in question is your mum though, and Jonathan Maitland’s tart autobiographical comedy drama tackles this conundrum almost head on…with enjoyable results.
How To Survive Your Mother, a meta theatrical distillation of Maitland’s 2007 memoir, has the unique USP, in Oliver Dawe’s nimble, inventive staging, of having the author himself appearing in person. He’s not the most convincing or comfortable of stage actors but his presence is a useful conduit between the audience and the frequently outrageous antics of his self-dramatising mama, a glamorous entrepreneur whose old folks home ran into trouble when she started conning residents out of their fortunes, and who turned the family home (in Cheam of all places) into a hard-partying gay hotel.
Maitland has created a humdinger of a starring role and bewitching leading lady Emma Davies seizes it with a gigantic dollop of camp panache, but also a surprising sensitivity. Bru Maitland was a Jewish immigrant who claimed to be French and Spanish to avoid anti-semitism, who told the most preposterous lies to get what she wanted, and discarded the men in her life when it suited her to. She was generally A Piece Of Work, the sort of woman who would crash a car to get her own way, or who would claim to have a life threatening made-up illness (“I have cancer…of the eyebrows”) to avoid uncomfortable questions from her own son.
She’s also irresistible theatrical company, especially as embodied by Davies as a foul-mouthed, extravagantly accented amalgam of Joan Crawford, Norma Desmond and a younger Betty White. Bru was not, by most conventional standards, a “good” person but Davies gives her an indomitable life force, a dancers physicality, and breathtaking comedy timing. It’s a glorious portrayal, over-the-top but rooted in a somewhat tragic reality. There’s a strong sense that this woman is bigger and more vivid than the humdrum suburban life she’s supposed to be fitting in to, like a proverbial square peg into a round hole, and that she is just too much for the conventional men who are getting in her way.
If Davies mines her role for every last nugget of comic gold and histrionic temperament, the rest of the cast have a lot less to get their teeth into. Despite the flimsiness of the roles, Peter Clements does strong work as adult Maitland in his middle years (two young actors alternate as the author as a child) and John Wark raises seething resentment into an artform as his father. Stephen Ventura is excellent as the homophobic neighbour reduced to a gibbering mess after a showdown with Bru at her most viciously withering.
Dawe’s production makes effective use of music to denote which decade we’re in story wise, and features some strikingly effective staging, using only a couple of moveable furniture pieces and a minimum of props in a bare space. It’s a shame Jason Taylor’s overly bright lighting isn’t more instrumental in evoking time and place, and that the production budget didn’t spring for some slightly more opulent costuming for its leading lady (although Davies wears animal print like an old school screen siren).
It’s a tremendously entertaining ninety minutes, but a framing device of having the real Maitland discuss the genesis of the play with his wife (also played, with acerbic grace, by Davies) feels mostly surplus to requirements. The storytelling moves through important developments in the Maitland family’s life with almost indecent haste and a sometimes bewildering lack of specificity. The trauma that the writer dealt with as a result of his unusual relationship with his mother, even from the earliest age, is given lip service but not much analysis. It would also be interesting to know why Bru behaves as extremely as she does, but we get little background detail (“it’s a drama, not a diagnosis” as Maitland points out when challenged), having to settle for bathing in the not inconsiderable glow of Davies’s barnstorming central turn.
Some stories are so strange they could only be true, and here’s one, even if we don’t get that much of the actual story. Still, How To Survive Your Mother is poignant and often downright hilarious, plus it offers an opportunity to see an authentic diva performance at very close quarters.








